Shifting Focus: Diversion

By Loveallie Lao
 

A quote from Khalil Gibran

“You talk when you cease to be at peace with your thoughts. And when you can no longer dwell in the solitude of your heart you live in your lips, and sound is a diversion and a pastime.”
 

For me rather than talking, I write. A form of expressing myself on how I truly feel. When my mind can no longer find peace, writing is my healing process. A way to express what is stirring inside me.
 

When I’m troubled, I write

When I’m at my complex state of mind, I write

When I’m sad and in despair, I write

When I don’t understand myself, I write

When I don’t understand other people, I write

When I’m grateful, and feeling fortunate, I write

When I am happy and delighted, I write

When I am in love, I write
 

Back then, I thought I shouldn’t have thrown away the journal I once had. But since it was full of rantings, and negative thoughts and emotions put into writing. I think it’s okay, throwing it away makes me feel good. Letting all those negative thoughts go. 
 

Shifting my focus on positivity, and what feels good, and what makes my heart feel at peace. Re-directing my focus of attention away from my negative fixation, and shifting towards a positive focus of attention where you can passionately pursue your dreams.
 

Writing is a very good diversion for me when I am hurting, when the pain is unbearable and excruciating. Expressing myself thru writing doesn’t make the pain go away, but making it bearable. As I can see and reread my writings, I get to realize where my thoughts are heading to. 
 

Realizing this, I am able to shift my focus back to a positive mindset. To bring back myself to the right track. An opportunity for me to process my thoughts. Letting myself heal, restoring myself to be strong again, and to ready myself to the next path I choose to. 
 

To carefully choose what to think, not to worry, and just be happy. A way of forgetting, positive diversions are always welcome, to take time to enjoy an awesome life.
 

 

In Reply to Daily Post: FACADE

 

As one of the first and oldest building in Makati Business District, its facade was preserve while the interior was constantly renovated. An old building that brings certain creative charm that cultivates pride from its historical structure.
 

MSE Center is a well preserved 8 storey building adjacent to a spacious park that is an ideal place, a place of refuge for people like me who wants to distance themselves from the fast paced hustle bustle everyday life in Makati. 
 

Letting Go

By Loveallie Lao

 

Now is the best time to let go. So much for the expectations and high hopes that had gone down to the pit of the earth.

 

When you are no longer happy, and the repeated disappointments causes you more pain. It’s time to let go.

 

Never lose yourself while trying to hold on to someone who doesn’t care about losing you. It’s sad when you realize you aren’t as important to someone as you thought you were.

 

Nothing hurts more than being disappointed by the person you thought would never hurt you. I am at fault for expecting too much from you, which leads to so much disappointment.

 

I am not going to apologise anymore, nor explain. I’m done. Letting go of everything. I have to move on for the next chapter of my life.

 

 

Writer’s Block

By Loveallie Lao

 

 
 
Blank   blank   blank

I’m shooting blanks

I’m out of juice

With this foggy mind

 
Not a single word

Just blank

 
My mind’s at mess

Staring at the wall

In this cluttered nest

Taking its toll

My mind’s unrest

 

 

Attraction. Carpe Diem!

By Loveallie Lao

 

 

At luck. A hottie showed up in a secluded café, alone. Oh! What a nice view from where I am at. While enjoying my mocha latte, I couldn’t help but stare. I know staring is rude. Musing, as I spotted his muscled arm lifting his coffee mug. I should have worn a dress or a sexy outfit, but instead I was wearing my usuals (shorts and shirt). Caught him glancing at me from afar. Can’t help but giggled, hoping he didn’t saw it.

 

Everyone knows that having the perfect physique catches more attention, the “head-turner” as we call it. That is why most of us pay more attention to our physical appearance. We take good care of ourselves from head to toe. We dress to impress, especially to those ungifted in physical appearance.

 

When we think about dating and choosing a partner, often times we think being attractive and sexy are on top of the list. Oh well, it is for me. But not everyone agreeing on my opinion. I have my exercise routine to stay fit and sexy. Besides it boost my confidence level too. Especially when other people find me attractive and desirable. I am not boasting. I’ve worked hard for it, gave extra attention to myself to maintain my physique.

 

But what really make us attracted to someone? I have no clue either. What I know, I have this feeling that I am drawn to that someone, a certain “chemistry” with another person. As they say “sparks fly”, but we barely know how that spark started. It happens, it’s there, and we feel it.

 

We all know, physical attraction are short-term. It often lean towards sexual relationship. But if the relationship heads towards intimacy and long-term, good looks becomes of less importance. But then as time goes by, being in a long-term relationship, we tend to loose the emotional intimate connection.  As both partner are busy with their life, they tend to forget to pay extra attention to their appearance. The main reason that started their attraction, what catches each others attention way back then.

 

Everyone have certain traits that other people find it attractive. The way we laugh, the way we move, the way we touch, our skills and styles, our level of intelligence, our behaviour itself, etc. Depending on what type of relationship we want, we are drawn to someone that most likely closest to our preferences.

 

Supposedly we find that person, it is how we convey our self to another person. To create that feeling of connection, to pique someone’s sexual and romantic interest. Not just verbal communication, but you would prefer to have a relationship that is physically and emotionally in sync with that special someone.

 

So go ahead, lean forward, get that person’s attention, pair up your eye contact with your best smile. Seize the day!

 

 

 

 

 

Embracing the Glorious Solitude

By Loveallie Lao

 

 

Language… has created the word “loneliness” to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word “solitude” to express the glory of being alone.   ~ Paul Tillich ~

 

I am alone, in a solitary confinement of my own room. I like it this way. Some people might think that I am lonely. I am not, I am just alone. Only woeful people who enclose themselves, who cannot start and build relationships with other people feel lonely.

 

Loneliness is neither negative nor positive. But loneliness can become emotionally painful and tormenting, when we add intense longing and wistfulness for our life to be different from our current circumstances. For example, you are currently single but you desperately want to be in a relationship. Another example, you are married but your husband/wife is physically present, but mentally and emotionally absent. That’s where loneliness is felt.

 

Loneliness can only be felt by someone with inactive mind. But if you were bustling and occupied, you wouldn’t have the time to get lonely.

 

Keep yourself open, even when you’re living alone you can still live a full life. Open your heart to others, get busy, then you’ll be able to eliminate loneliness. Open your mind to look for what you might treasure about being alone, it can become glorious solitude.

 

Some people treasure and enjoy being single. For them it’s that glorious solitude of being alone. Doing what they want to do, whatever and whenever they want to. Just like me, loving the quiet and peacefulness of being alone.

Alone but beautiful. Embracing the glorious solitude.

Only One

By Loveallie Lao

 

It feels lonely because there is only one.

And because it is so lonely, it became solitude.

That solitude is poignantly beauteous.

Power of Words

By Loveallie Lao

Language can be fine-tuned to our advantage by choosing carefully the words we use. Words shape our thoughts, feelings, and attitudes. It may have strong bearing as to how we remember or experience certain details. It can affect us just by reading the words. Words may also have negative or positive impression depending on how the reader felt while reading it.
Read these words:

Hate          Depressed          Despair          Sad

How did these words make you feel?

How about these words?

Joy          Happiness          Wealth          Success

Words have bigger impact in our life. Words when said with full emotions have powerful effect. Choose your words wisely.

Point and Shoot: Sentosa Beach

By Loveallie Lao

 

Photo taken from one of my Sentosa escapades

 

Sentosa Beach, Sentosa Island.
A quarter mile away from the main island of Singapore. Sentosa is basically an island full of man-made beaches for tourist attraction as well as for locals who would love to spend their weekend away from home, an escape from the city.

 

Long ago, this island was called “Dead Black Island”, due to lack of fertile soil, and seen as too unhealthy for habitation.

 

The development of the island began in 1972, this was converted into man-made beaches. The sands where imported from neighboring Asian countries. On the same year, the island was renamed to Sentosa. From Sanskrit “Santosha”, a Malay word meaning “peaceful and tranquility”.

 

Sentosa can be reach via cable car, sky train, by car, or even on foot. For several times, I go back to this serene, scenically relaxing beaches (Palawan, Siloso, and Tanjong) of Sentosa.

 

 

 

Clearing The Grey

By Loveallie Lao

 
Life, as we struggle with it day and night.

Perplexed with the intricacies of making decisions,

when one’s mind is full of confusion.

 
 
Many of us panic, that prevent us to make logical thinking when faced with tough decision making.

 
Never make hasty decisions. Weigh the problems carefully, and consider all options. Emotions may sometimes cloud our judgements, so do not act on impulse.

 
Remove all those grey areas from your mind. Eliminate the clutter we hold in our brain. Get rid of the negative thoughts. Empty your mind.

 
Meditate. Seek a quiet place, away from distractions. I call it ‘My Alone Time’ or ‘My Quiet Time’. Having a time for yourself, focusing on your inner self. You’ll be able to relax your mind and body. Fill in your mind with good thoughts, just positive thoughts. Believe in yourself that you’ll make the right decision. Affirm life, that you can achieve all the greatness in life.